If we don’t know what we are looking for, we will find it every time. A little boy was seen walking down a dusty country road with a rifle over his shoulder. Every now and then, he would point the gun barrel at something, but he would never take a shot. This went on for 20 minutes until someone finally asked, “What are you hunting?”

The boy shrugged his shoulders and said, “I don’t know. I ain’t seen it yet.”

There are a lot of people who spend precious time looking for Mr. or Mrs. Right to walk into their lives. The sad thing is, in most cases they don’t have the slightest idea what they are looking for in a mate. They end up settling for the first person who comes their way because they are so caught up in the person’s outward appearance that they forget about what really counts.

True beauty and charm comes from within, not from a bottle. The substance and beauty of a woman is her virtue, and a man’s substance is his character. Virtue and character are displayed through a person’s attitude and actions. How does he react when he is stuck in traffic? How does she treat her parents? Does she have a gentle, caring spirit, or is she selfish? Is the young man really godly, or is he just trying to impress you? These are important things to think about before you start dating or plan to get married.

If you are single, there may be a Mr. or Mrs. Right for you. Study Scripture passages like Proverbs 31 and the book of Ruth to see what the ideal husband or wife looks like. Maybe you are already married. Use your experience to keep young singles from making some of the mistakes you made. That way when the right one comes for them, they will have no trouble finding him or her.

No change of circumstances can repair a defect of character. — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Devotional by Dr. James A. Scudder