|“Oh, Susan!” said Jill. “She’s interested in nothing nowadays except nylons and lipstick and invitations. She always was a jolly sight too keen on being grown-up.”
“Grown-up, indeed.” said the Lady Polly. “I wish she would grow up. She wasted all her school time wanting to be the age she is now, and she’ll waste all the rest of her life trying to stay that age. Her whole idea is to race on to the silliest time of one’s life as quick as she can and then stop there as long as she can.”
C.S. Lewis – The Last Battle
I am constantly amazed at the sheer number of people who have a confused idea of what it means to grow up. They think that they are an adult because they can stay up as late as they want with friends, watch whatever they want regardless of the content of the movie, and play ‘hardcore’ video games that show an abundance of blood and guts. In short, these people think that they are ‘adult’ because they abuse the so-called ‘perks’ of adulthood.
A person is not an adult because they are old enough to do previously forbidden things. This is a childish view of maturity and marks the one holding it as immature. A person is an adult when they realize that responsibility is something to be embraced-not avoided. A man is mature when he works hard to provide for his family… not when he ignores their needs to have a good time.
When is a person supposed to realize this? It is supposed to start during the teenage years and culminate in college. This a wonderful transition period of limited responsibility when a person can experiment and find out what their skills, abilities and interests are. Unfortunately, many people lose sight of this and get so wrapped up in the good times that they never want to leave.
If they stay in the past long enough, they will harm several people. They harm themselves because God designed people to mature; they will never find happiness apart from following God’s design. They harm those around them because they may not meet the needs of those who depend upon them. Then they will disappoint God Himself because they won’t be able to fully follow His will for their life.
Perhaps you’ve been trying to hold onto the past or avoid your responsibilities. Don’t hide from maturity. Embrace it. There is a satisfaction and pleasure in meeting responsibility that nothing else can ever hope to match. Grow up. You won’t regret it.