Today’s Scripture: Be of the same mind one toward another. Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate. Be not wise in your own conceits. RomansĀ 12:16

Recently, I began preaching a series entitled “Marriage, Kids, and Survival” showing how the Lord views our relationships, and how by following His Word we can succeed with our spouse, children, and all our other life relationships.

At one point I thought to myself, I wonder what would best illustrate my point in a way everyone will remember. Tandem biking popped into my mind.

My wife and I have never ridden a tandem bike before, but I knew a couple in our church that did so on a regular basis. While I was preaching one Sunday evening, I had a little surprise in store for the congregation. When everyone was least expecting anything, I had the couple ride into our auditorium on a tandem bike. They rode around the room effortlessly-perfectly in sync with each other. Judging from the look on everyone’s faces, let’s just say I think I got their attention about how important it is to work together in a relationship.

How does a good relationship work like a tandem bike?‘ you may wonder. For starters, the man is usually in front as the “captain” because he is the strongest rider, just as the husband is to be the strong leader in the household. The “stoker” (tandem terminology for the second rider) must exercise complete trust because they do not have control of speed, breaking or direction-very similar to the trust a wife needs to exhibit with her husband. It takes teamwork to keep the bike in motion; likewise, any good relationship requires the husband and wife to work together in harmony.

Whether you are a husband, wife, aunt, uncle, sister, brother, everyone has a family they need to work together with. No matter what relationship you have, even with a friend, it is going to take a lot of love, trust, forgiveness, and flexibility to make it work. If you go about life randomly working in harmony when you feel like it, things will not go smoothly. So, instead of being random try working in tandem.

Devotional by Pastor Jim Scudder, Jr.